Saturday, September 3, 2011

A Way To Refine Our NLP Skills

By Amelia Klein


Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) offers a whole array of strategies and techniques for bringing about change in both your life and the lives of those you love and everyone else too. If you practise your %LINK1% on a regular basis, then you will start to find that the quality of your relationships and your communication will improve greatly. Moreover, your NLP skills will help you to be able to achieve things better and faster.

Something you will usually hear spoken about with respect to NLP skills is resource states. Imagine you were able to wave an imaginary magic wand and feel any way you desire to feel, as soon as you want. Now that would definitely be a skill worth developing!

You understand that there are occasions when we wish that we could act in a different way. You will possibly identify with individuals who are afflicted by stage fright. We do not actually have to be in the situation. Simply thinking about it can easily bring us out into a cold sweat. We recall times when we have been anxious in front of groups previously, and we might also use our imaginations to envision all the things that might go awry. And you know what, we are correct

You can notice from the example that we actually practise getting into damaging resource states, such as feeling worried, on a regular basis. Despite the fact that these states are not especially beneficial, we evidently know well the practice of state induction and there is no reason why we should not use the same method to produce beneficial resource states.

So, what sort of emotional state would be useful in this situation? The choice is yours, but it would probably be useful to be confident and relaxed. There have probably been numerous other occasions when you have experienced these feelings before. Just close your eyes and think back to when you last felt relaxed and confident. Maybe it was yesterday or perhaps years ago. Recall everything about it, from how you stood, how you were breathing, how you felt, what you saw and what you heard at the time.

Now, if you are thinking that you can't do this because you have never felt this way before, then imagine how someone who is calm and confident would stand, breathe and feel. Maybe this is someone you admire for being this way. When you have achieved the desired state, ramp it up to make it as vivid and appealing as possible. This is where one of your other %LINK1% comes into play. This is called anchoring. In this case, an anchor is a trigger for the state change. So, when you are fully experiencing the state such as calm and confident, that you want to re-induce in the future, you could, for example, scratch the back of your neck or squeeze together the thumb and index finger of your right hand; it is your choice. In this way, the chosen action becomes part of the calm and confident state. So, when you do the trigger action again, for example, as you think about or enter the situation where you would previously have been nervous, you naturally enter the desired resource state.

You are most likely now recognizing the value of practising the %LINK1% of producing resource states and anchoring. These are NLP techniques that you can apply to all areas of your life. Of course, the benefit of perfecting these skills is that the ensuing states will significantly enhance your communication skills and have a good impact on the other individuals that you come into contact with.




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